whos the boss

[Mandy]

Originally Posted by magnolia

Well, let's see - when we got married, we were a lot like Rebecca - we both shared the "trouser wearer" title. Then, when first child came along, he was the boss (LOL!). And forget it when 2nd child came along - then they BOTH were the boss. Oh, reverse, back up.....before firstborn, our first yorkie, Katie, was definitely the boss!!! Okay, now after child 2......oh, now Gabby and Gage are the boss. Um......er......wait a sec......you mean of the household as far as discipline and finances go, right??? Okay, um.....that would mean it would still be Gabby and Gage - they keep the boys in line and all our money goes to them

Seriously, hubby and I have always shared everything in the house - from finances, to discipline, down to decorating (furniture, paint, etc.). If there's something he wants, we talk about it first - he doesn't just go out and get it (unless it's clothes for himself) - and the same for me. Big ticket items, we talk about first.

In our house, it's much the same as Magnolia's .... Big ticket items get discussed first. When it comes down to getting things for our fur girls and our son, we just agree without having to speak about it

[rivermom]

We both are equal really, but in reality I still place my husband as "head of the household". Big stuff we discuss ($$), little stuff we don't even talk about. Our business he definitely has control over regarding employee's, purchases, the way it's ran, etc.

My previous marriage I felt i was in charge of everything, my ex-husband is a totally weak and lying sorry ass of a person. I found it completely draining to "not have a man" in my life.

So, my marriage now I find it extreamly comforting to know I am under my husbands wing sorta say. It works for us and we both are happy by the way our lives are lead with each other.

[Janet]

I truly wish I didn't have to be in charge, but if I wasn't, nothing would ever get done. I even have to decide if we go out to eat and where and what time. If I just say for him to decide, we end up staying home. So sad. I just want someone else to take control once in awhile, and he knows. So, que sera, sera!

[2tiredmom]

My husband wears the pants except to bed. LMAO. Sorry I just had to say that.
We share in the duties. He helps around the house but he has more smarts about some things than what I do. After all he went to college and I didn't.
But I love him to pieces.........

[Janet]

Originally Posted by 2tiredmom

My husband wears the pants except to bed. LMAO. Sorry I just had to say that.
We share in the duties. He helps around the house but he has more smarts about some things than what I do. After all he went to college and I didn't.
But I love him to pieces.........

Linda, you are so much smarter than you give yourself credit for!!! So start believing it! I don't think the Myer's know any other way than to be in charge. You just have domineering in-laws and it's hard to get a voice!

Can you tell Linda and I know each others families very well? Ha Ha Ha

My youngest brother is married to Linda's husband's sister. Linda and I can't stand our mutual sister-in-law!!!!

[Tink]

Being married to an over the road trucker, I'm usually home to deal with things much more than he is, so the general day to day stuff is up to me. I do get his opinion on things I'm not fully decided on, and when it comes to major things, he certainly is involved.

I was the one who found and negotiatied the land contract on our current home. I homeschooled the 2 younger kids, take care of our finances, and pretty much choose the things we have/use in our home. I also buy most of hubbies clothes for him. It's as much a matter of convenience as my "wearing the pants" since he's usually only home part of sat and sunday and living where we do, it's close to an hr drive to any city where we can shop.

Right now we're trying to decide whether we should fix up the mobil home we're living in or replace it in a couple of years when the mortgage is paid off on our place. We plan for this to be our retirement home; so need to have it fit to live in for another 25 or so years. This type of decision we make together.

[Kimberley]

For the LONGEST time, I wore the pants. My husband couldn't make a decision on his own if his life depended on it. I even told him once to "grow a pair". In fact, if it wasn't for me, we'd still be renting a house. I picked out the house even before he had a chance to see it...BUT, his parents rented for over 30 years before buying their first house and I guess that's how he thought people should live. I wanted something to call my own.

I try to include him in the decision making process and he will participate sometimes, but mostly, he leaves it up to me. I guess then, if I mess up in a decision, he doesn't have to take the blame for anything.