Don't tell me how to train my kids!!!

[Willow]

So my three year old son is still potty training.

Anyway, he had several accidents yesterday with wetting himself and last night I forgot to put him in a diaper before bed (still has accidents at night).

So this morning I just put a diaper on him because I have to do his laundry since he used all but one pair of underwear yesterday. He was so upset and crying because he wants to wear his underwear (he is working towards earning a pack of Nemo underwear). I told him it would be ok and that he could try underwear again later today but to keep telling me when he needs to go and I will help him with the diaper.

Well my FIL was here and I am putting the diaper on my son and FIL starts calling my son pee butt and telling him that is bad. My son was already CRYING because I made him wear the diaper, so he already felt bad enough. I turned to my FIL and told him to stop it, that I wasn't going to let him belittle and bully my 3 yr old. His response was it will make him stop peeing in his pants and make him go potty. I said no, it will hurt his feelings and self esteem and kids at school will do that enough when he gets older, he doesn't need Papa doing it!

So my FIL yelled back at me for getting nasty with him and said he will never potty train because mommy keeps babying him. I am NOT babying him! It was devestating to my son to have to wear a diaper today...lets not make him feel worse by making fun or teasing him! I feel the diaper got the point across to my son "if you don't use the potty, you wear a diaper."