Divorces

[Tiramisu]

Judy, you would never make a penny, nobody would want to hear that truth!

[Janet]

Maybe you should have been a comedian. You could be known as "The Therapist." So funny!!!

[Gina]

Sandy, That is sad.. But many people who are married so long have stayed for their children. IMO they sacrificed all those years and when it will get easier they leave. Go figure! Maybe like Judy said there may be hope for the last couple she seems to be lacking quality time with her husband. Maybe you can suggest he start wining and dining her to get her back.. Just a thought!


Judy your too funny!!

[Janet]

I'm pretty sure, but not positive of course, that if it wasn't for my son, I would have been gone a long long time ago.

[Tiramisu]

Heck, I stay because I want it all, not just half! I'm joking, I stay because I want to be with my Hubby, but we've almost stopped talking, settled into a boring life.

[Passionfruition]

Divorce is sad, no matter the circumstance...

But contagious? Seriously?!

When I went through my divorce, most of my friends were young married couples from church...and they just stopped calling, stopped hanging out, even stopped acknowledging me in the church hallways. Once good friends, who all the sudden avoided me. I always said I guessed they thought I had the divorce disease.

That's SO short sighted. Please don't be one of those people. Divorce hurts, and treating divorcees like they're contagious makes the hurt worse.

[DianaB]

What I meant by saying that divorce is contagious is that if I'm best friends with someone and she and her husband are having problems and she's complaining about her marriage then I'm likely to complain about my marriage too. It makes me look at my marriage differently. I've know women who were good friends that have gotten divorced about the same time.

I didn't mean that as friends we should avoid people who are getting a divorce. We do have to safe guard our marriages so we don't join in and think that we're unhappy too.

Val, I'm sorry that your friends didn't support you during that time. Please don't think that I was telling people to avoid those that are going through divorces because that isn't what I meant at all.

[blowry]

Originally Posted by Passionfruition

Divorce is sad, no matter the circumstance...

But contagious? Seriously?!

When I went through my divorce, most of my friends were young married couples from church...and they just stopped calling, stopped hanging out, even stopped acknowledging me in the church hallways. Once good friends, who all the sudden avoided me. I always said I guessed they thought I had the divorce disease.

That's SO short sighted. Please don't be one of those people. Divorce hurts, and treating divorcees like they're contagious makes the hurt worse.

I agree....I was married to a local man/boy, for 19 years (was with him for 4 before we married). Where we were from the same town people knew both of us. He was an abusive alcoholic and I felt after 19 yrs it was time for me to leave. My girls were 18 yrs and 14 yrs old. It was very very hard on them. Even though I was the one that wanted to divorce, it was the hardest thing I had ever done..I just couldn't take it anymore. Of course I didn't go around telling people what went on in my house and, when I finally asked him to leave my "friends" (I use that term loosely) were not there for me. Some were but, most of them walked away from me. A really "good friend's" (I thought I had) husband wouldn't let her visit me or even talk to me on the phone..... When you go through something like this you find out who your true friends are and....they aren't always who you think.