Divorces

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Originally Posted by Passionfruition

Divorce is sad, no matter the circumstance...

But contagious? Seriously?!

When I went through my divorce, most of my friends were young married couples from church...and they just stopped calling, stopped hanging out, even stopped acknowledging me in the church hallways. Once good friends, who all the sudden avoided me. I always said I guessed they thought I had the divorce disease.

That's SO short sighted. Please don't be one of those people. Divorce hurts, and treating divorcees like they're contagious makes the hurt worse.

I agree....I was married to a local man/boy, for 19 years (was with him for 4 before we married). Where we were from the same town people knew both of us. He was an abusive alcoholic and I felt after 19 yrs it was time for me to leave. My girls were 18 yrs and 14 yrs old. It was very very hard on them. Even though I was the one that wanted to divorce, it was the hardest thing I had ever done..I just couldn't take it anymore. Of course I didn't go around telling people what went on in my house and, when I finally asked him to leave my "friends" (I use that term loosely) were not there for me. Some were but, most of them walked away from me. A really "good friend's" (I thought I had) husband wouldn't let her visit me or even talk to me on the phone..... When you go through something like this you find out who your true friends are and....they aren't always who you think.